Borderline personality disorder · Dissociative disorder · PTSD · Uncategorized

Stepping outside yourself: dissociative disorders

Okay, let's start with the formal definition: dissociation is a disturbance in one’s experience of reality.  It occurs any time there's a disruption in the normally integrated functions of a person’s consciousness.  Dissociation can vary from distortion of perception to total shifts of identity.  This phenomenon is often triggered by severe, repetitive psychological trauma.  Some… Continue reading Stepping outside yourself: dissociative disorders

Marriage & Relationships · relationship · Uncategorized

How to mend a relationship on your own

We hear the duo argument all the time: "It takes two to tango," "two heads are better than one," "there's no I in team." But what do you do if your relationship is in trouble and your partner isn't ready to work on the problem? Of course it's better to tango with two, but if you're… Continue reading How to mend a relationship on your own

Coping skills & self-soothing · Fun · Opinion · Uncategorized

Meaning: a little bit of India

"It is true that even across the Himalayan barrier India has sent to the west, such gifts as grammar and logic, philosophy and fables, hypnotism and chess, and above all numerals and the decimal system." -- Will Durant, American Historian Too much time, and don't know what to do?   Or maybe the better question is:… Continue reading Meaning: a little bit of India

Coping skills & self-soothing · Uncategorized

What to do when finding a job is so scary you just want to run away

Here's the scenario.  Maybe this sounds familiar: You're unemployed and have been looking for work for months.   You're terrified because your savings won't last forever.  You're starting to feel useless and incompetent.  The free time is killing you, leaving you depressed, which is making job hunting and surviving job interviews more difficult.  It's a scary… Continue reading What to do when finding a job is so scary you just want to run away

Coping skills & self-soothing · handouts · Uncategorized

Problem-busting: just talk to the problem

Problem-solving worksheet Conversation with a problem  This is a 2-page cartoon-ridden worksheet that helps the reader explore a new way to approach a problem, by talking to the darned thing!   Grab a pen, start where it says "START HERE," and follow the arrows.  (Word document format) This isn't madness.  For anyone who's curious, the… Continue reading Problem-busting: just talk to the problem

Coping skills & self-soothing · Fun · Growth · Uncategorized

Quick guide to finding yourself

“Stay strong, make them wonder how you’re still smiling.” (Buzzfeed)   How to find the self Here's a two-step framework to help you... find yourself.  Each day, choose one of the options from step one and another from step two.  To keep things healthy, try to vary your choices from day to day.  Practice, enjoy,… Continue reading Quick guide to finding yourself

Addiction · Coping skills & self-soothing · Uncategorized

Choosing life over addiction: relapse prevention plan

Addiction handouts, relapse prevention plan. Relapse prevention plan.  This is an "alternative" two-page worksheet helping people in recovery maneuver through those difficult moments.  Page one focuses on identifying warning symptoms and triggers, reviewing negative effects of drugs/alcohol, and the exciting effects of staying clean/sober.  Page two is aimed at urge management.  Ideally the handout would… Continue reading Choosing life over addiction: relapse prevention plan