Conflict · Uncategorized

A family member is badgering you: what do you do?

Problem: your aunt breaths fire at you whenever you see her.  She's belittling, insulting, hurtful, and all other synonyms for "offensive" you can come up with, and her nastiness burns you.  What do you do?  Is this worth a big fight, an exchange of words, a gentle palaver, or should you just leave it alone? … Continue reading A family member is badgering you: what do you do?

Aggression · Conflict · Coping skills & self-soothing · Uncategorized

How to deal with difficult people

It takes guts to deal with toxic relationships.  The difficult person might be a peer at school, colleague, parent, sibling, or neighbor, and they can do damage.  This post is about dealing with problem situations in assertive ways. Being assertive means standing up for your rights in a direct, honest way.  It's about solving a… Continue reading How to deal with difficult people

Conflict · Coping skills & self-soothing · Uncategorized

Difficult roommate: how to solve conflict without killing someone

It would be nice if we had a magic wand that calmed people down and solved conflict with a flurry of the stick, but things aren’t so easy.  Consider the following situation. You ask your new roommate to remove her belongings from your shelf in the bathroom.  You don't mean anything bad by it.  She’s… Continue reading Difficult roommate: how to solve conflict without killing someone

Conflict · Coping skills & self-soothing · Therapy · Uncategorized

Defense Mechanisms: What would you do?

Picture this scenario: You’re a college student.  You’ve been working very hard on a paper for class when Don, another student, steals the paper and presents it to the professor himself.  The professor is impressed with Don and gives him an A, then dings you for copying him.  You can't prove that you're the original… Continue reading Defense Mechanisms: What would you do?